The Greatest Gift – YOU

Each of us has very special gifts, and we are here for very specific reasons. We each have a life purpose to fulfil and with this come the lessons that we must learn and the circumstances that we must go through in order to evolve as spiritual beings. To compare our lives to other people’s lives when we have no idea of what they are here to learn or fulfil doesn’t benefit anyone – especially you.

Instead, if we can accept ourselves, appreciate the special talents and qualities that we alone possess, and realize that each of us is going through certain kinds of experiences for a reason, we are less likely focus so much on what other people have or are doing. Try to not compare yourself to others, and you will see how much you have and how special you are.

 

Coaching Journal

1. What makes you unique?
2. What do others like about you?
3. What are your past achievements or creations?
4. Based on the above, what are the areas you like to expand about yourself?
5. What is one step you will take today to unleash the gifting in you?

Are you listening?

Active Listening is an important competency in communication especially in the coaching process.  A great coach is an active listener moving towards becoming a deep listener. Active Listening is “I’m very focused on what you‘re saying, recording, facts, paying attention and deep listening is “I’m more focused on you ‘than me, I am getting a sense of who you are now” The goal of deep listening is to hear beyond the words of the other person and yourself, to the essence of what the words and feelings are pointing to. Your mind and heart are joined in union, you are listening wholeheartedly.

Deep listening is effortless; it is more like listening lightly to your favourite music, the sound of a stream rushing by, or a bird singing. When we listen to these delightful sounds we are under no pressure, we aren’t analyzing or figuring out — we are simply letting the feelings and sounds affect us. Deep listening is not defensive, argumentative, or intrusive. It is not about struggling to analyze or interpret. When we listen deeply, we let go of any beliefs we have about the other person. We let go of our prejudices and past memories. Deep listening is based on a feeling of unconditional love and respect.

 

Coaching Journal

1. What are your greatest challenges in listening?
2. What are the areas you need to make changes for improvement?
3. What will you do to make the listening process effortless?
4. What is an action step you will take starting today?